I thought that I became someone who is not influenced by external situations, by other people; but I guess I'm still not there! I still find myself getting attached to people, to outcomes.
This is not something that I want. It's not something that I aim for. I can't let other people control me. I want no one to affect my inner peace, no matter how much I love them.
You can't let others dictate to you how you feel. Your peace is your peace and no one has the right to fucking mess with it.
That power should lie with you, ALWAYS!
If you think you've started getting attached to people and expect a certain kind of behaviour from them, PLEASE STOP BABY. STOP. STOP. STOP.
ATTACHMENT AND LOVE ARE NOT THE SAME THING.
Just think about it, can they ever be the same? If that would have been the case, we would've stopped loving people who are not with us anymore? But do we? We don't!
With attachment comes entitlement, and where there's entitlement, there's no love! There can never be! Don't confuse yourself!
Love others without expectations.
Love and don't get attached.
ATTACHMENT IS NOT LOVE
IT'S A TRAP
A TRAP YOU DONT WANNA FALL INTO
USE THIS OPPORTUNITY TO RECONIZE THE TOXIC, UNWANTED PATTERNS.
FUCK YOUR EGOISTIC SELF
BURN YOUR EGO
IT'S ROBBING YOU OF YOUR HAPPINESS
JUST LOVE LOVE AND LOVE
IS IT SO HARD TO JUST LOVE PEOPLE
TO SIMPLY LOVE EVERYONE
ITS EASIER THAN HATING EVERYONE
LOVE THE ENTIRE COSMOS
AND MAKE OTHERS SEE WHAT LOVE CAN DO
BUT BEGIN WITH YOU
LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
AND BE YOU
AND BE THIS COSMOS.
Love, always! ❤
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Sometimes when we are hurting, we don't think about choosing our words carefully; we simply misspeak. In those moments, it just becomes a way for us to channel the pain we've been experiencing.
And l feel it's both mean and supremely unfair to the other person.
Afterwards, we start putting everything under the scalpel, dissecting everything, somehow trying to make sense of our actions. And the loop of self-loathing then begins, immediately after realisation, with the emergence of the not-so-easily-going-to-go thought - that you never seem to learn.
Which is not true, obviously!
It's a vicious circle. We feel bad about feeling bad and then the sense of guilt adds on to it. A lethal combination, to be honest.
I still can't figure out where exactly these kind of sensations or emotions surface from, or is it just the mixing of a sense of a certain low with a sense of having a certain immediate high, so as to compensate for the low. And does that mean we do it intentionally on some semi-conscious level? Can not behaving righteously be an act of revenge? Can it be?
I seriously don't know.
I agree that it's important to establish the cause-effect relationship as it then opens the possibility of not repeating the same mistake in the future, but equally important is to learn how to forgive yourself and invest more energy in practising how to be the most kind version of yourself.
Love, always! ❤
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