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🐟 & 🍟 Indulgent JBT style! 🐟 Have your awesome Brother in Law give you some of his fresh caught fish. 🐟 Crack an egg into a bowl and stir.
🐟 Dunk pieces of fish into egg.
🐟 Then coat with cornflour or gluten free flour mixed with herbs and spices. I used Herb Salt and Tarragon. 🍟 Cut zucchini into large chip like pieces. 🍟 Make up a fresh batch of egg and seasoned flour. 🍟 Dunk zucchini chips into egg.
🍟 Coat in flour and spices. I used All Purpose Seasoning and Pepper. 🐟🍟 Heat pan with oil. Fry until crispy and delicious. 🥗 Serve with crunchy salad.

Enjoy 😋

#wholefood #wholefoodlover #getmoreplantonyourplate #loveyourselfenoughtoliveahealthylifestyle #loveyourbody #selflove #selfcare #selfworth #women #womenshealth

🐟 & 🍟 Indulgent JBT style! 🐟 Have your awesome Brother in Law give you some of his fresh caught fish. 🐟 Crack an egg into a bowl and stir.
🐟 Dunk pieces of fish into egg.
🐟 Then coat with cornflour or gluten free flour mixed with herbs and spices. I used Herb Salt and Tarragon. 🍟 Cut zucchini into large chip like pieces. 🍟 Make up a fresh batch of egg and seasoned flour. 🍟 Dunk zucchini chips into egg.
🍟 Coat in flour and spices. I used All Purpose Seasoning and Pepper. 🐟🍟 Heat pan with oil. Fry until crispy and delicious. 🥗 Serve with crunchy salad.

Enjoy 😋

#wholefood #wholefoodlover #getmoreplantonyourplate #loveyourselfenoughtoliveahealthylifestyle #loveyourbody #selflove #selfcare #selfworth #women #womenshealth

0 0 1 hour ago
Isn't it easy to talk yourself out of doing something that pushes you out of your comfort zone.....? That voice in your head that prevents you from taking the step that could put you on the path to your dreams.... It tells you to stay where you are, where it is safe and warm and absolutely nothing will go wrong....... and things will remain EXACTLY as they are.

But the magic lies outside of your comfort zone... and while not everything will go to plan that one step might just might take you on the most amazing journey !

So tell that voice in your head to SHUT the F$*K UP!

#goforit #dreams #dreambig 
#motivationalquotes #inspirationalquotes #positivequotes #entrepreneurquotes #positivethinking #positivemind #positivelife #positivethoughts #positiveenergy #positivevibes #businessquotes #quotesaboutlife #positivity #positivepeople #successquotes #positiveaffirmations #selflove #loveyourself #bodypositive #selfcare #gratitude #youcandoit #mindfulness #consciousness #mentalhealth #bodypositivity #selfworth

Isn't it easy to talk yourself out of doing something that pushes you out of your comfort zone.....? That voice in your head that prevents you from taking the step that could put you on the path to your dreams.... It tells you to stay where you are, where it is safe and warm and absolutely nothing will go wrong....... and things will remain EXACTLY as they are.

But the magic lies outside of your comfort zone... and while not everything will go to plan that one step might just might take you on the most amazing journey !

So tell that voice in your head to SHUT the F$*K UP!

#goforit #dreams #dreambig
#motivationalquotes #inspirationalquotes #positivequotes #entrepreneurquotes #positivethinking #positivemind #positivelife #positivethoughts #positiveenergy #positivevibes #businessquotes #quotesaboutlife #positivity #positivepeople #successquotes #positiveaffirmations #selflove #loveyourself #bodypositive #selfcare #gratitude #youcandoit #mindfulness #consciousness #mentalhealth #bodypositivity #selfworth

1 0 1 hour ago
#Selfworth#

#Selfworth#

2 0 1 hour ago
“I hope you grow as the person you dream of being every day of your life.”
— would you rewind, pause or fast forward your life?

“I hope you grow as the person you dream of being every day of your life.”
— would you rewind, pause or fast forward your life?

30 4 1 hour ago
Porque las personas olvidamos o ignoramos como amarnos. Y por ende tampoco sabemos indicar a quien nos quiere amar, como queremos ser amada. 
#selflove #selfworth #selfaware #loveyourself #humanrevolution #freelove #loverespectfully

Porque las personas olvidamos o ignoramos como amarnos. Y por ende tampoco sabemos indicar a quien nos quiere amar, como queremos ser amada.
#selflove #selfworth #selfaware #loveyourself #humanrevolution #freelove #loverespectfully

0 0 1 hour ago
Search yourself for the person you want to be and love that person. It starts and ends with you. #NewChapterCounselingServices #selfworth #nextchapter

Search yourself for the person you want to be and love that person. It starts and ends with you. #NewChapterCounselingServices #selfworth #nextchapter

0 0 1 hour ago
Good morning world. Value your time. Value your efforts. Value yourself. The positive energy you put out can always be put on to the next thing. Don't waste your energy more than you need to. If it's not being returned either keep it to yourself or place it somewhere better. Life has a way of letting you know. .
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#ktse #energy #effort #motivation #truth #fact #facts #value #affirmations #selfesteem #selfworth #goodmorning

Good morning world. Value your time. Value your efforts. Value yourself. The positive energy you put out can always be put on to the next thing. Don't waste your energy more than you need to. If it's not being returned either keep it to yourself or place it somewhere better. Life has a way of letting you know. .
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#ktse #energy #effort #motivation #truth #fact #facts #value #affirmations #selfesteem #selfworth #goodmorning

8 0 1 hour ago
Yes! #selfworth #loveyourself #bewise #onelove❤️

Yes! #selfworth #loveyourself #bewise #onelove❤️

3 0 1 hour ago
Self- love, this quote really puts it into perspective how it can affect your relationships... I can’t post this entire thread at once because of the 10 photo limit, if this speaks to you I HIGHLY recommend going to my Facebook page to read through it all(https://www.facebook.com/graceinspospeaker/) It’s such an impactful statement overall...
If you know who this speaker is, comment their @ ! .
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#selflove #selfworth #selfcare #awareness #relationshipquotes #alone #single #inspirationalquotes #inspiration #inspirational #quotes #quote #quotestoliveby #life #lifequotes #positive #positivity #positivevibes  #followforfollowback

Self- love, this quote really puts it into perspective how it can affect your relationships... I can’t post this entire thread at once because of the 10 photo limit, if this speaks to you I HIGHLY recommend going to my Facebook page to read through it all(https://www.facebook.com/graceinspospeaker/) It’s such an impactful statement overall...
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#selflove #selfworth #selfcare #awareness #relationshipquotes #alone #single #inspirationalquotes #inspiration #inspirational #quotes #quote #quotestoliveby #life #lifequotes #positive #positivity #positivevibes #followforfollowback

2 1 1 hour ago
• E n c h i l a d a s • .

with ALL  the trimmings 🥬🌶🥕🍅🥑Simple, tasty & healthy 💥 .
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#firsttimemum #gettinghealthy #mentallyandphysically #simpleandhealthy #quickmeals #selflove #selfcare #selfworth #motherhood

• E n c h i l a d a s • .

with ALL the trimmings 🥬🌶🥕🍅🥑Simple, tasty & healthy 💥 .
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#firsttimemum #gettinghealthy #mentallyandphysically #simpleandhealthy #quickmeals #selflove #selfcare #selfworth #motherhood

5 0 1 hour ago
Set small goals to gain the momentum to achieve the bigger goal.... Thewhitleys.myqsciences.com #unstoppable #life #leader #leasons #selflove #selfworth #evolve #goals

Set small goals to gain the momentum to achieve the bigger goal.... Thewhitleys.myqsciences.com #unstoppable #life #leader #leasons #selflove #selfworth #evolve #goals

1 0 1 hour ago
{𝔄𝔫𝔤𝔢𝔩𝔰 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔡𝔢𝔳𝔦𝔩𝔰 𝔞𝔩𝔴𝔞𝔶𝔰 𝔣𝔦𝔤𝔥𝔱 𝔬𝔳𝔢𝔯 𝔪𝔢. 𝔗𝔞𝔨𝔢 𝔪𝔢 𝔱𝔬 𝔥𝔢𝔞𝔳𝔢𝔫, 𝔴𝔞𝔨𝔢 𝔪𝔢 𝔲𝔭 𝔣𝔯𝔬𝔪 𝔱𝔥𝔦𝔰 𝔡𝔯𝔢𝔞𝔪. 𝔈𝔳𝔢𝔫 𝔦𝔫 𝔰𝔲𝔫𝔩𝔦𝔤𝔥𝔱 𝔞 𝔠𝔩𝔬𝔲𝔡 𝔰𝔥𝔞𝔡𝔬𝔴𝔰 𝔬𝔳𝔢𝔯 𝔪𝔢. ℑ𝔱𝔰 𝔫𝔬𝔴 𝔬𝔯 𝔫𝔢𝔳𝔢𝔯, 𝔴𝔞𝔨𝔢 𝔪𝔢 𝔣𝔯𝔬𝔪 𝔱𝔥𝔨𝔰 𝔡𝔯𝔢𝔞𝔪. ℑ 𝔣𝔢𝔩𝔩 𝔦𝔫 𝔩𝔬𝔳𝔢 𝔴𝔦𝔣𝔥 𝔱𝔥𝔢 𝔡𝔢𝔳𝔦𝔩 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔫𝔬𝔴 𝔦𝔪 𝔦𝔫 𝔱𝔯𝔬𝔲𝔟𝔩𝔢} 
Lately I have recognized so many things in my recovery. I would avoid things that would help me grow as a person. I got sick over the weekend and instead of telling myself that it’s ok to rest, I chose to tell myself depression won. July 22nd will be a day to remember for me. It’s the day I fully finally believed I do chose recovery, I got my CODA chip today. This is such a huge step for me. I also stopped going to my favorite gym 5 weeks ago & as soon as I walked through the doors, literally everyone welcomed me back in with open arms. I will never be able to thank every single person that has been there for me through this crazy storm of recovery. I may have a ways to go and I have so much work to do. But I know I am choosing the right path & that god has a plan for me. I have fully put my recovery in gods hands. There is only better days to come💖🤩
#recovery #recoveryrocks #recoverywin #depressiondoesntwin #coda #codependencyrecovery #anxietyrecovery #traumarecovery #selfworth #selflove #selfcare #kickboxinggirl

{𝔄𝔫𝔤𝔢𝔩𝔰 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔡𝔢𝔳𝔦𝔩𝔰 𝔞𝔩𝔴𝔞𝔶𝔰 𝔣𝔦𝔤𝔥𝔱 𝔬𝔳𝔢𝔯 𝔪𝔢. 𝔗𝔞𝔨𝔢 𝔪𝔢 𝔱𝔬 𝔥𝔢𝔞𝔳𝔢𝔫, 𝔴𝔞𝔨𝔢 𝔪𝔢 𝔲𝔭 𝔣𝔯𝔬𝔪 𝔱𝔥𝔦𝔰 𝔡𝔯𝔢𝔞𝔪. 𝔈𝔳𝔢𝔫 𝔦𝔫 𝔰𝔲𝔫𝔩𝔦𝔤𝔥𝔱 𝔞 𝔠𝔩𝔬𝔲𝔡 𝔰𝔥𝔞𝔡𝔬𝔴𝔰 𝔬𝔳𝔢𝔯 𝔪𝔢. ℑ𝔱𝔰 𝔫𝔬𝔴 𝔬𝔯 𝔫𝔢𝔳𝔢𝔯, 𝔴𝔞𝔨𝔢 𝔪𝔢 𝔣𝔯𝔬𝔪 𝔱𝔥𝔨𝔰 𝔡𝔯𝔢𝔞𝔪. ℑ 𝔣𝔢𝔩𝔩 𝔦𝔫 𝔩𝔬𝔳𝔢 𝔴𝔦𝔣𝔥 𝔱𝔥𝔢 𝔡𝔢𝔳𝔦𝔩 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔫𝔬𝔴 𝔦𝔪 𝔦𝔫 𝔱𝔯𝔬𝔲𝔟𝔩𝔢}
Lately I have recognized so many things in my recovery. I would avoid things that would help me grow as a person. I got sick over the weekend and instead of telling myself that it’s ok to rest, I chose to tell myself depression won. July 22nd will be a day to remember for me. It’s the day I fully finally believed I do chose recovery, I got my CODA chip today. This is such a huge step for me. I also stopped going to my favorite gym 5 weeks ago & as soon as I walked through the doors, literally everyone welcomed me back in with open arms. I will never be able to thank every single person that has been there for me through this crazy storm of recovery. I may have a ways to go and I have so much work to do. But I know I am choosing the right path & that god has a plan for me. I have fully put my recovery in gods hands. There is only better days to come💖🤩
#recovery #recoveryrocks #recoverywin #depressiondoesntwin #coda #codependencyrecovery #anxietyrecovery #traumarecovery #selfworth #selflove #selfcare #kickboxinggirl

2 0 1 hour ago
I'M A LONE WOLF. BUT I'M NOT LONELY. ... 🔸
 I used to hate being alone. I used to think it was the worst feeling
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I took it as rejection.That noone wanted to spend time with me. I was in a relationship where I wanted to be with that person all the time, but it was not reciprocated. She had "other"/"better"plans. Or that's what I thought. ... 🔹
 You see the thing here is. I did not miss out. She did. She chose other plans rather than building on us. For a long time I used to wallow in self pity. But eventually I went and just did my own thing. As soon as she said she was doing something, that's it, I was off seeing who was about and trying to catch up with people who I had put to one side to concentrate on the relationship. But noone was free. So I ended up spending time with me.. ... 🔹
This TIME that I had FREE was precious. Not every one gets time. I ended up having loads, even more so when that relationship broke down. Rather than go off the rails (which I did do a bit, but who doesn't), I invested more time in myself. I read a lot. I trained a LOT,  spent a lot of time learning new things. And more to the point, I was learning new things while distracting myself from the real life situation of: I'm alone. ... 🔹
 It's good to be alone. You get to do things at your own pace. When YOU want to do it. How YOU want to do it. I can see now that being on your own, or single isn't such a bad thing. I held on to a relationship that I pushed so hard for, and I thought it failed because I wanted or needed consistent attention. When in reality I just needed to put the free time I had to good use. To better use. To build myself into a better person. ... 🔹
I think now I have a much better understanding of myself and of relationships. I learned that it's OK to spend time with yourself. And in actual fact this is something I would make very clear in the future. I need "me time". ... 🔹
 Ps: ensure that your me time is spent building on your character. Doing something you enjoy. And if the person you are with doesn't understand, go do it anyway. Just don't use it to go fuck around with other people and there emotions. That's not cool. That's not "me time".

I'M A LONE WOLF. BUT I'M NOT LONELY. ... 🔸
I used to hate being alone. I used to think it was the worst feeling
... 🔹
I took it as rejection.That noone wanted to spend time with me. I was in a relationship where I wanted to be with that person all the time, but it was not reciprocated. She had "other"/"better"plans. Or that's what I thought. ... 🔹
You see the thing here is. I did not miss out. She did. She chose other plans rather than building on us. For a long time I used to wallow in self pity. But eventually I went and just did my own thing. As soon as she said she was doing something, that's it, I was off seeing who was about and trying to catch up with people who I had put to one side to concentrate on the relationship. But noone was free. So I ended up spending time with me.. ... 🔹
This TIME that I had FREE was precious. Not every one gets time. I ended up having loads, even more so when that relationship broke down. Rather than go off the rails (which I did do a bit, but who doesn't), I invested more time in myself. I read a lot. I trained a LOT, spent a lot of time learning new things. And more to the point, I was learning new things while distracting myself from the real life situation of: I'm alone. ... 🔹
It's good to be alone. You get to do things at your own pace. When YOU want to do it. How YOU want to do it. I can see now that being on your own, or single isn't such a bad thing. I held on to a relationship that I pushed so hard for, and I thought it failed because I wanted or needed consistent attention. When in reality I just needed to put the free time I had to good use. To better use. To build myself into a better person. ... 🔹
I think now I have a much better understanding of myself and of relationships. I learned that it's OK to spend time with yourself. And in actual fact this is something I would make very clear in the future. I need "me time". ... 🔹
Ps: ensure that your me time is spent building on your character. Doing something you enjoy. And if the person you are with doesn't understand, go do it anyway. Just don't use it to go fuck around with other people and there emotions. That's not cool. That's not "me time".

5 1 2 hours ago
Baby, you're made of stars, don't let nobody tell you different
You are a lot of soul, mixed with a lot of magic
Look how the sky turns gold every time you're dancing
You deserve all the love, why don't you let it in?
Don't punish who you are for who once you have been
You've got a heart of fire, it's gonna take you higher
Just let it flow, look at you glow, you gotta know
That you're an extraordinary being
Yes, you're an extraordinary being
~ Emeli Sandé

If you want to feel this way but instead feel stuck, lost, worried, anxious and alone. I have 1 space available to work with a woman on my 1.1 ‘The Liberated Woman’ programme.

Have you had enough of feeling this way and now feel ready to make a change? Do you want to feel liberated from the past and in love with you and your future? This is all possible, trust me. I’ve done it.

Curious? Send me a message and let’s chat.

LOVE YOU  ALL💜
thanks for the song + inspiration @ginaswire

#selflove #power #shine #love #emelisandé #selfworth #belief #womanempowerment #women #youcan #loveyou

Baby, you're made of stars, don't let nobody tell you different
You are a lot of soul, mixed with a lot of magic
Look how the sky turns gold every time you're dancing
You deserve all the love, why don't you let it in?
Don't punish who you are for who once you have been
You've got a heart of fire, it's gonna take you higher
Just let it flow, look at you glow, you gotta know
That you're an extraordinary being
Yes, you're an extraordinary being
~ Emeli Sandé

If you want to feel this way but instead feel stuck, lost, worried, anxious and alone. I have 1 space available to work with a woman on my 1.1 ‘The Liberated Woman’ programme.

Have you had enough of feeling this way and now feel ready to make a change? Do you want to feel liberated from the past and in love with you and your future? This is all possible, trust me. I’ve done it.

Curious? Send me a message and let’s chat.

LOVE YOU ALL💜
thanks for the song + inspiration @ginaswire

#selflove #power #shine #love #emelisandé #selfworth #belief #womanempowerment #women #youcan #loveyou

5 0 2 hours ago
After work I like to walk to Amiens St to catch the bus, sometimes to the North Strand. 
And I keep finding graffiti like this, it always makes me smile.

#Dublin1 #therapist #selfcare #support #selfworth

After work I like to walk to Amiens St to catch the bus, sometimes to the North Strand.
And I keep finding graffiti like this, it always makes me smile.

#Dublin1 #therapist #selfcare #support #selfworth

7 0 2 hours ago
Sometimes we find it hard to accept that certain things in life will take time. We rush ourselves, push unrealistic expectations and get disappointed when life doesn’t seem to be going our way. I am particularly guilty of this, meaning I feel let down often, and it’s only this year that I’ve started to approach a different way to thrive. 🤩
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Small steps. That’s it. The path I am carving for myself is too big to achieve right now. I needed to slow down, appreciate things in the moment, and work towards my goals in a logical and realistic way. I had to take a step back and look objectively at what I want my life to look like, break it down and formulate a plan of action. 💪🏻💪🏻
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Actions are important, but recognizing the minor actions you achieve can still be hard. I now celebrate ALL the small things. If I eat three healthy meals a day, congratulations are in order. If I manage to do laundry ahead of time and don’t run out of clothes from week to week, I’m so proud of myself it’s crazy. With so many different priorities ruling my day, I have to select the most important and just appreciate what I can succeed at in small increments. Otherwise I get overwhelmed. 🙈🙈
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So if life is overwhelming for you, I recommend relieving some of the pressure you’re putting on yourself. You are thriving whether you see it yet or not. And bonus - if your goals are coming to life slowly, they might even be stronger than if you rushed it all. Think of a house made of cards or popsicle sticks... time is your friend, and being impulsive with your dreams may not be the right answer. 🤔🤔
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Photography by @evelyntanphoto 
#happinessjourney #lifeadvice #goalsetting #mentalhealthawareness #selfhelp #selfdevelopment #selfimprovement #successinspiration #dailyadvice #dailyinspiration #mentalhealthjourney #healthylifestyle #healthyliving #selflove #selfworth #loveyourself #celebratethesmallthings #smallwins #smallsteps #keepmovingforward #piano #dreamlife #dontrushyourdreams

Sometimes we find it hard to accept that certain things in life will take time. We rush ourselves, push unrealistic expectations and get disappointed when life doesn’t seem to be going our way. I am particularly guilty of this, meaning I feel let down often, and it’s only this year that I’ve started to approach a different way to thrive. 🤩


Small steps. That’s it. The path I am carving for myself is too big to achieve right now. I needed to slow down, appreciate things in the moment, and work towards my goals in a logical and realistic way. I had to take a step back and look objectively at what I want my life to look like, break it down and formulate a plan of action. 💪🏻💪🏻


Actions are important, but recognizing the minor actions you achieve can still be hard. I now celebrate ALL the small things. If I eat three healthy meals a day, congratulations are in order. If I manage to do laundry ahead of time and don’t run out of clothes from week to week, I’m so proud of myself it’s crazy. With so many different priorities ruling my day, I have to select the most important and just appreciate what I can succeed at in small increments. Otherwise I get overwhelmed. 🙈🙈


So if life is overwhelming for you, I recommend relieving some of the pressure you’re putting on yourself. You are thriving whether you see it yet or not. And bonus - if your goals are coming to life slowly, they might even be stronger than if you rushed it all. Think of a house made of cards or popsicle sticks... time is your friend, and being impulsive with your dreams may not be the right answer. 🤔🤔




Photography by @evelyntanphoto
#happinessjourney #lifeadvice #goalsetting #mentalhealthawareness #selfhelp #selfdevelopment #selfimprovement #successinspiration #dailyadvice #dailyinspiration #mentalhealthjourney #healthylifestyle #healthyliving #selflove #selfworth #loveyourself #celebratethesmallthings #smallwins #smallsteps #keepmovingforward #piano #dreamlife #dontrushyourdreams

13 0 2 hours ago
Please remember that you matter. You were born worthy. That is something that noone can take from you. #LivingWell #Selfworth

Please remember that you matter. You were born worthy. That is something that noone can take from you. #LivingWell #Selfworth

1 1 2 hours ago
😓 А у вас были такие поклонники, кто ловил каждое ваше слово, жест и взмах ресниц, а потом бежал со всех ног исполнять поручения? Ну, были же?! Поначалу это кажется милым, но со временем начинает утомлять. Хочется сбежать, стать невидимкой.
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А вот я очень долгое время была по другую стороны баррикад - там, где обитают угодники, или people pleasers. Тогда мной управляла такая мысль: "ради любви, внимания и заботы я пойду на все". И ведь шла - отсекала части себя, угождала, терпела, страдала.
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🔮 Вся моя жизнь была построена на лжи. Я преуспела в считывании желаний родных, мужчин, коллег, боссов. Это привело к потере личных границ, низкой самооценке и подавленному чувству "вы все мне должны" (привет, комплекс великомученика!).
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Но что если мы посмотрим на угодничество с другой стороны? Ведь на самом деле это крутой навык: ощущать потребности другого человека. Не доверять словам, поступкам. Они могут быть ширмочкой, которую безопасно показать. Только представьте, что у вас есть эта суперсила - видеть истинные желания и потребности человека.
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☝И вот тут начинается самое интересное. Вдруг то, что вы увидели, человек не готов получить? Ваши мысли убежали далеко вперед. Вы обрушиваете на него всю любовь, нежность и деньги мира. Только вместо ожидаемой благодарности в ответ можете получить обидное слово или щелчок по носу.
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Понимаете, насколько усложняются отношения? ⤵️
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Вы испытываете недостаток и решаете, что можете восполнить это извне - через человека, например. Находите "свою жертву". Он(а) не дается вам по доброй воле. Вы создаете сложную схему: найти его боль, утолить ее и заполучить то, что хочется. Человек получает вашу "заботу" и сбегает подальше - от вас, самого себя - потому что не готов со всем этим добром справиться! Ну а вы залазите в свою раковину подальше, потому что мир суров и несправедлив!
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🙈 Я, конечно, утрирую. Но мы создаем эту фигню сами. Так, может, вместо того, чтобы причинить кому-нибудь добро, спросим, а пойдет ли это ему на пользу?
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😓 А у вас были такие поклонники, кто ловил каждое ваше слово, жест и взмах ресниц, а потом бежал со всех ног исполнять поручения? Ну, были же?! Поначалу это кажется милым, но со временем начинает утомлять. Хочется сбежать, стать невидимкой.

А вот я очень долгое время была по другую стороны баррикад - там, где обитают угодники, или people pleasers. Тогда мной управляла такая мысль: "ради любви, внимания и заботы я пойду на все". И ведь шла - отсекала части себя, угождала, терпела, страдала.

🔮 Вся моя жизнь была построена на лжи. Я преуспела в считывании желаний родных, мужчин, коллег, боссов. Это привело к потере личных границ, низкой самооценке и подавленному чувству "вы все мне должны" (привет, комплекс великомученика!).

Но что если мы посмотрим на угодничество с другой стороны? Ведь на самом деле это крутой навык: ощущать потребности другого человека. Не доверять словам, поступкам. Они могут быть ширмочкой, которую безопасно показать. Только представьте, что у вас есть эта суперсила - видеть истинные желания и потребности человека.

☝И вот тут начинается самое интересное. Вдруг то, что вы увидели, человек не готов получить? Ваши мысли убежали далеко вперед. Вы обрушиваете на него всю любовь, нежность и деньги мира. Только вместо ожидаемой благодарности в ответ можете получить обидное слово или щелчок по носу.

Понимаете, насколько усложняются отношения? ⤵️

Вы испытываете недостаток и решаете, что можете восполнить это извне - через человека, например. Находите "свою жертву". Он(а) не дается вам по доброй воле. Вы создаете сложную схему: найти его боль, утолить ее и заполучить то, что хочется. Человек получает вашу "заботу" и сбегает подальше - от вас, самого себя - потому что не готов со всем этим добром справиться! Ну а вы залазите в свою раковину подальше, потому что мир суров и несправедлив!

🙈 Я, конечно, утрирую. Но мы создаем эту фигню сами. Так, может, вместо того, чтобы причинить кому-нибудь добро, спросим, а пойдет ли это ему на пользу?

#relationships #selfworth #peoplepleasing #choicecreates #awareness #аннагеллер #геллер_рекомендует #осознанность #самооценка #личные_границы #достоинство #акссесс

8 2 2 hours ago
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We all have days when we feel shit and a little bit insecure; me more than most. Even the pretty, skinny, toned and tanned people on Instagram have days when they don't like bits of themselves. Today is one of those days for me (got myself into an Instagram hole didn't I?! 🤦🏼‍♀️)
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It's on days like this that I have to remind myself: even if I looked like these women on Instagram, there would still be something I'd change about myself.
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Imperfections is where true beauty lies; I may not have a flat stomach, perfect skin or great teeth but I am me. These things make me me and there is only one of me, so I think that's a pretty awesome thing.
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#selfworth #selflove #appreciate #imperfections #perfectlyimperfect #confidence #selfesteem #insecurities #unique

Read, repeat; read, repeat.
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We all have days when we feel shit and a little bit insecure; me more than most. Even the pretty, skinny, toned and tanned people on Instagram have days when they don't like bits of themselves. Today is one of those days for me (got myself into an Instagram hole didn't I?! 🤦🏼‍♀️)
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It's on days like this that I have to remind myself: even if I looked like these women on Instagram, there would still be something I'd change about myself.
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Imperfections is where true beauty lies; I may not have a flat stomach, perfect skin or great teeth but I am me. These things make me me and there is only one of me, so I think that's a pretty awesome thing.
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#selfworth #selflove #appreciate #imperfections #perfectlyimperfect #confidence #selfesteem #insecurities #unique

7 2 2 hours ago

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