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In my last post I said, "Self-love isn't radical," and it's NOT. But it IS counter-cultural. And it will take some bravery and courage to step out and be different from the pack. I remember when I was first learning to love myself, I found myself often talking with other women and they would all be putting themselves down. I didn't want to partake and I didn't want to do that to myself anymore. It took courage to say I disagreed. It took courage to say I loved myself. And some people were rubbed the wrong way. Some of them challenged me in what I believed. And that's okay. Someone has to be the one to stand out. Let's be trend-setters my friends. Let's speak kindly of ourselves in our own minds and out lout to other people, even if we're the only one. If enough of us do, it just might catch on. But you'll have to be willing to be in some uncomfortable situations and for people to be uncomfortable with your choices. #worthit #selfloverevolution

In my last post I said, "Self-love isn't radical," and it's NOT. But it IS counter-cultural. And it will take some bravery and courage to step out and be different from the pack. I remember when I was first learning to love myself, I found myself often talking with other women and they would all be putting themselves down. I didn't want to partake and I didn't want to do that to myself anymore. It took courage to say I disagreed. It took courage to say I loved myself. And some people were rubbed the wrong way. Some of them challenged me in what I believed. And that's okay. Someone has to be the one to stand out. Let's be trend-setters my friends. Let's speak kindly of ourselves in our own minds and out lout to other people, even if we're the only one. If enough of us do, it just might catch on. But you'll have to be willing to be in some uncomfortable situations and for people to be uncomfortable with your choices. #worthit #selfloverevolution
0 1 4 minutes ago

When people talk about "radical self-love" what they actually mean is unconditional love. Why do we think this is radical? This needs to be our baseline. This needs to be common. From here on out, this is just what we do.

When people talk about "radical self-love" what they actually mean is unconditional love. Why do we think this is radical? This needs to be our baseline. This needs to be common. From here on out, this is just what we do.
0 1 13 minutes ago

Happy new podcast episode day!⠀

Today's episode is an interview with @natalielinnea , who is an American living in Germany with her German husband. She shared her story of meeting her husband for the first time when he had only six days left in the US, which was just the beginning of their beautiful story. We also chatted about choosing to learn from cultural differences rather than facing them with judgment. I met her through @sheyla_partyofone {fun fact: just learned today that her interview is our second most downloaded across all platforms!}⠀

While getting ready to post this episode, @spotify took me down memory lane and shared some cool stats with me about people who listen using their platform. One thing about podcasting is that you never quite know who is listening -- that can be cool for introverts who don't want to actually picture a room full of people critiquing their every "um" and "like," but it also makes you wonder on a bad day if *anyone* actually tunes in or cares.⠀

Well, on Spotify alone, we've had listeners in 24 countries this year. That fills this heart with a lot of gratitude. Thanks for tuning in, and I hope you'll continue to stick around.

Happy new podcast episode day!⠀
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Today's episode is an interview with @natalielinnea , who is an American living in Germany with her German husband. She shared her story of meeting her husband for the first time when he had only six days left in the US, which was just the beginning of their beautiful story. We also chatted about choosing to learn from cultural differences rather than facing them with judgment. I met her through @sheyla_partyofone {fun fact: just learned today that her interview is our second most downloaded across all platforms!}⠀
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While getting ready to post this episode, @spotify took me down memory lane and shared some cool stats with me about people who listen using their platform. One thing about podcasting is that you never quite know who is listening -- that can be cool for introverts who don't want to actually picture a room full of people critiquing their every "um" and "like," but it also makes you wonder on a bad day if *anyone* actually tunes in or cares.⠀
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Well, on Spotify alone, we've had listeners in 24 countries this year. That fills this heart with a lot of gratitude. Thanks for tuning in, and I hope you'll continue to stick around.
9 3 2 hours ago

How much time are are you willing to invest? For me, the process of becoming a woman who truly loved herself took about 2 years. And it was worth every minute. I think so many of us have an idea of how long it "should" take, and then we think something has gone wrong when it doesn't happen in the time frame we've determined in our own mind. Let it take as long as it takes.

How much time are are you willing to invest? For me, the process of becoming a woman who truly loved herself took about 2 years. And it was worth every minute. I think so many of us have an idea of how long it "should" take, and then we think something has gone wrong when it doesn't happen in the time frame we've determined in our own mind. Let it take as long as it takes.
8 1 2 hours ago

The 5 Love Languages Explained⠀

#brainerdlaps #staplelaps #loveisachoice #5lovelanguages

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The 5 Love Languages Explained⠀
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#brainerdlaps #staplelaps #loveisachoice #5lovelanguages⠀
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1 0 3 hours ago

Day 337 - Watching #gwissy develop and grow as an artist is such a gift. It’s taken 13 years for him to find his thing...and man, it’s the most wonderful thing. He whipped this up last night for me. I absolutely love it.

Day 337 - Watching #gwissy develop and grow as an artist is such a gift. It’s taken 13 years for him to find his thing...and man, it’s the most wonderful thing. He whipped this up last night for me. I absolutely love it.
34 5 9 hours ago

You deserve better. Leave behind those that one day promise you to be by your side and the day after leave you for someone else. You are worth someone that does not change his mind over night, because all of a sudden he realizes “you don’t match”. Love is a choice.
#loveisachoice #younglove #mindshift #healthyminds #personalgrowth #selfgrowth #heartbreaks #inspiredaction #narcissist #selfimprovement #healthymindset #lifetransformation

You deserve better. Leave behind those that one day promise you to be by your side and the day after leave you for someone else. You are worth someone that does not change his mind over night, because all of a sudden he realizes “you don’t match”. Love is a choice.
#loveisachoice #younglove #mindshift #healthyminds #personalgrowth #selfgrowth #heartbreaks #inspiredaction #narcissist #selfimprovement #healthymindset #lifetransformation
6 0 9 hours ago

Melbourne from the star
One attraction not to miss 👍

Melbourne from the star
One attraction not to miss 👍
46 2 10 hours ago

My WCW😍😍😍 love is something you do, not feel
#loveisaction #loveisachoice
#loyalty #faithfulness

My WCW😍😍😍 love is something you do, not feel
#loveisaction #loveisachoice 
#loyalty #faithfulness
9 0 20 hours ago

What is one thing you can do today ON PURPOSE to move towards greater self-love?
Add more than one if you have ideas in case someone else is struggling!!

What is one thing you can do today ON PURPOSE to move towards greater self-love? 
Add more than one if you have ideas in case someone else is struggling!!
17 2 23 hours ago

We care for the things we love. If you are struggling to "do" self-care, back it up and look at what's happening emotionally. If you're trying to perform a specific set of actions out of obligation, it will be exhausting (and you'll probably find a lot of reasons why you really just can't make time). I encourage you to put your focus on learning to love yourself (again, not a specific set of actions so much as an internal state of being), then your actions will line up naturally. Caring for yourself is much easier when you see yourself as valuable and deserving of love and care. . .
Self-care does not refer to a specific set of actions, but to anything we do for our wellbeing.
You can transform everyday acts into acts of self-care by performing them from love. . .
You can also love yourself by what you choose NOT to do:
not beating yourself up,
not overeating,
not trying to fix other people,
not lying and saying yes when you want to say no,
not staying up late when you're tired and need sleep.

We care for the things we love. If you are struggling to "do" self-care, back it up and look at what's happening emotionally. If you're trying to perform a specific set of actions out of obligation, it will be exhausting (and you'll probably find a lot of reasons why you really just can't make time). I encourage you to put your focus on learning to love yourself (again, not a specific set of actions so much as an internal state of being), then your actions will line up naturally. Caring for yourself is much easier when you see yourself as valuable and deserving of love and care. . . 
Self-care does not refer to a specific set of actions, but to anything we do for our wellbeing. 
You can transform everyday acts into acts of self-care by performing them from love. . .
You can also love yourself by what you choose NOT to do:
not beating yourself up, 
not overeating,
not trying to fix other people,
not lying and saying yes when you want to say no,
not staying up late when you're tired and need sleep.
9 1 4 December, 2019

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69 1 4 December, 2019

We get better at what we practice.

We get better at what we practice.
15 1 4 December, 2019

You are one choice away from being a woman who loves herself. Choose a loving thought right now in this moment. Then choose one again in the next moment. That's it. That's how we become.

You are one choice away from being a woman who loves herself. Choose a loving thought right now in this moment. Then choose one again in the next moment. That's it. That's how we become.
12 2 4 December, 2019

Falling in love is easy, staying in love is a choice. 10 years down and I feel like it's a major milestone also feels like the first 5 years we were just raising kids! Has it been easy, nope not always, do I love him more than the day I said "I do, I do, I dooooo"! (I really said it like that on our wedding day) Most definitely! •
Find yourself a man that says sorry, that forgives quickly, that swallows his pride and admits his wrong.
A man that will wash the dishes or after too many fights in the first year of married life buys you a dishwasher. (Game changer in our marriage!)
Find a man that will sew the hem of the curtains because at 22 you didn't quite know how.
That folds laundry and vacuums the floor because he wants to and not because you have nagged him to do it.
Find a man that places others above himself. •
And when you find that man, love him with all you got. •
A successful marriage is not about no fighting or having disagreements, I believe it's about having Grace,showing forgiveness, letting go of our own pride and selfish desires and making a choice to work on our marriage everyday!

We are by no means perfect or have the "perfect" marriage, but I wouldn't choose anyone else to go through the good and bad together than you @francoisuys7


#10yearsinlove #anniversary #younglove #loveisachoice #graceupongrace #aservantsheart #lovesopure #lovesohard #oneofakind #weddingdress #sunsetphotography #weddingphoto

Falling in love is easy, staying in love is a choice. 10 years down and I feel like it's a major milestone also feels like the first 5 years we were just raising kids! Has it been easy, nope not always, do I love him more than the day I said "I do, I do, I dooooo"! (I really said it like that on our wedding day) Most definitely! •
Find yourself a man that says sorry, that forgives quickly, that swallows his pride and admits his wrong. 
A man that will wash the dishes or after too many fights in the first year of married life buys you a dishwasher. (Game changer in our marriage!)
Find a man that will sew the hem of the curtains because at 22 you didn't quite know how. 
That folds laundry and vacuums the floor because he wants to and not because you have nagged him to do it.
Find a man that places others above himself. •
And when you find that man, love him with all you got. •
A successful marriage is not about no fighting or having disagreements, I believe it's about having Grace,showing forgiveness, letting go of our own pride and selfish desires and making a choice to work on our marriage everyday!
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We are by no means perfect or have the "perfect" marriage, but I wouldn't choose anyone else to go through the good and bad together than you @francoisuys7 •
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#10yearsinlove #anniversary #younglove #loveisachoice #graceupongrace #aservantsheart #lovesopure #lovesohard #oneofakind  #weddingdress #sunsetphotography #weddingphoto
112 10 4 December, 2019

Today - by some miracle 🙊 - Brian remembered that he asked me to be his girlfriend (for the second time) 17 years ago today!! .
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I want to honour him for committing to his own personal growth within our relationship. To still be surprised by your partner after almost two decades of knowing each is a beautiful thing. We’re stronger now than ever. .
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I’ve known this man for more than half my life, and I will forever be grateful his family moved in across the road all that time ago. Love you babe 😘

#younglove #loveisachoice #choosejoyrevolution

Today - by some miracle 🙊 - Brian remembered that he asked me to be his girlfriend (for the second time) 17 years ago today!! .
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I want to honour him for committing to his own personal growth within our relationship. To still be surprised by your partner after almost two decades of knowing each is a beautiful thing.  We’re stronger now than ever. .
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I’ve known this man for more than half my life, and I will forever be grateful his family moved in across the road all that time ago. Love you babe 😘

#younglove #loveisachoice #choosejoyrevolution
89 6 4 December, 2019

BEST ADVICE I RECIEVED TODAY - CREDIT GOES TO THE DUGGAR KIDS IN COUNTING ON.
Love should not be based on a feeling. Love is choice. You are choosing that person and taking actions you to demonstrate your choice.

#relationshiphelp
#relationshipgoals #relationshipadvice #love #lovequotes #goodadvice #loveisachoice #strength #marriage #commitment #whatislove #loveis

BEST ADVICE I RECIEVED TODAY - CREDIT GOES TO THE DUGGAR KIDS IN COUNTING ON.
Love should not be based on a feeling. Love is choice. You are choosing that person and taking actions you to demonstrate your choice.

#relationshiphelp
#relationshipgoals #relationshipadvice #love #lovequotes #goodadvice #loveisachoice #strength #marriage #commitment #whatislove #loveis
2 0 4 December, 2019

#neversettle too many give up, too many stop trying at marriage. It's never perfect, it's never easy, but it's 💯% worth it! #itsaboutchase #lightinthedark #15years #marriage #loveisachoice #choosewisely #beworthyofthechase #carhartt #flannel #love #weneededagetaway #black #red #fire

#neversettle too many give up, too many stop trying at  marriage. It's never perfect, it's never easy, but it's 💯% worth it! #itsaboutchase #lightinthedark #15years #marriage #loveisachoice #choosewisely #beworthyofthechase #carhartt #flannel #love #weneededagetaway #black #red #fire
36 0 4 December, 2019

I don’t know anyone without a story, a past or vulnerabilities.
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You see we all believe we are different— and we are. We are all so unique with different needs, wants and desires.
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We do not see each other or understand one another equally. We discriminate. Not on purpose— but something from within and our experiences lead us to preference others as well as their stories, traumas and vulnerabilities.
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But at the end of the day we all have the same innate desires:
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To be seen.
To be heard.
To be understood.
To have someone who shares in our joys.
To have someone who sits with us in pain.
To have someone who shows up when we feel alone.
To have our most vulnerable selves recognized, validated and comforted.
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We all have demons, fears and insecurities that need quieted and comforted. Find that person who calms your fears, quiets your insecurities and sees the best in you ever through your worst times. .
You see at the end of the day, at the end of our lives it really is connection and love that matter most.
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How did you love?
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Show up.
Connect.
Be vulnerable.
Love hard.
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#day39 #vulnerability #relationships #demons #trauma #showup #beseen #genuine #connection #love #loveisachoice #lovehard #fear #insecurities #mentalwellness #health

I don’t know anyone without a story, a past or vulnerabilities.
.
You see we all believe we are different— and we are. We are all so unique with different needs, wants and desires.
.
We do not see each other or understand one another equally. We discriminate. Not on purpose— but something from within and our experiences lead us to preference others as well as their stories, traumas and vulnerabilities.
.
But at the end of the day we all have the same innate desires:
.
To be seen.
To be heard.
To be understood.
To have someone who shares in our joys.
To have someone who sits with us in pain.
To have someone who shows up when we feel alone.
To have our most vulnerable selves recognized, validated and comforted.
.
We all have demons, fears and insecurities that need quieted and comforted. Find that person who calms your fears, quiets your insecurities and sees the best in you ever through your worst times. .
You see at the end of the day, at the end of our lives it really is connection and love that matter most.
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How did you love?
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Show up.
Connect.
Be vulnerable.
Love hard.
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#day39 #vulnerability #relationships #demons #trauma #showup #beseen #genuine #connection #love #loveisachoice #lovehard #fear #insecurities #mentalwellness #health
9 0 4 December, 2019

There's nothing to wait for. Nothing that needs to be sorted out first. Start today. Start now.
If you want some help with practical "How To's" be sure to go to my website (link in bio) and watch my Self-Love 101 mini-course.

There's nothing to wait for. Nothing that needs to be sorted out first. Start today. Start now. 
If you want some help with practical "How To's" be sure to go to my website (link in bio) and watch my Self-Love 101 mini-course.
16 1 4 December, 2019

Yes it was. So grateful for the gift of Grace YOU gave to me back in 2009.
So few understand this gift. The sacrifices required. The narrow path You ask us to walk and we do so willingly with LOVE because to do otherwise would be to deny You.
Who could dare deny You? Not I, I cannot deny You.
Thank you for blessing me that day far more than I could ever have deserved. From then to now. Thank you GOD. 🙏❤ #GOD #GODISGOOD #GODISGREAT #GODSGOTYOU #godisawesome #AWESOMEGOD #GRACE #SAVEDBYGRACE #HUMILITY #HUMBLENESS #GODSGRACE #FORGIVENESS #LOVEISACHOICE #LOVE #PRODIGAL #PRODIGALSPOUSE #STANDINGFORMARRIAGE #STANDINGWITHGOD #TRINITYOFMARRIAGE #TRINITY #TRUSTGOD #NARROWPATH #DIOS #DIOSPRIMERO #DIOSSABE #MARRIAGE #AMEN

Yes it was. So grateful for the gift of Grace YOU gave to me back in 2009. 
So few understand this gift. The sacrifices required. The narrow path You ask us to walk and we do so willingly with LOVE because to do otherwise would be to deny You.
Who could dare deny You? Not I, I cannot deny You. 
Thank you for blessing me that day far more than I could ever have deserved.  From then to now. Thank you GOD. 🙏❤ #GOD #GODISGOOD #GODISGREAT #GODSGOTYOU #godisawesome #AWESOMEGOD #GRACE #SAVEDBYGRACE #HUMILITY #HUMBLENESS #GODSGRACE #FORGIVENESS #LOVEISACHOICE #LOVE #PRODIGAL #PRODIGALSPOUSE #STANDINGFORMARRIAGE #STANDINGWITHGOD #TRINITYOFMARRIAGE #TRINITY #TRUSTGOD #NARROWPATH #DIOS #DIOSPRIMERO #DIOSSABE #MARRIAGE #AMEN
1 0 3 December, 2019

These penguins represent one of my favorite projects I’ve ever been asked to do. A friend contacted me after finalizing the adoption of their teenage son. She had a unique problem...her two bio kids had “baby’s first” ornaments, and her son did not. She asked me to make this cute penguin ornament for him (because he loves penguins...same!) with his name and birthdate so that he would have his own baby’s first ornament. ❤️❤️❤️ Then she ordered a new family ornament so that their family of FIVE could be represented on their tree this year. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Adoption is such an incredible picture of God’s love for us, that he has adopted us through salvation in Christ and that we come to Him as sons and daughters! I am blessed to have been a small part of this family’s new joy in adoption this Christmas season! #adoption #keepsakes #christmasornament #memories #belonging #loveisachoice

These penguins represent one of my favorite projects I’ve ever been asked to do. A friend contacted me after finalizing the adoption of their teenage son. She had a unique problem...her two bio kids had “baby’s first” ornaments, and her son did not. She asked me to make this cute penguin ornament for him (because he loves penguins...same!) with his name and birthdate so that he would have his own baby’s first ornament. ❤️❤️❤️ Then she ordered a new family ornament so that their family of FIVE could be represented on their tree this year. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Adoption is such an incredible picture of God’s love for us, that he has adopted us through salvation in Christ and that we come to Him as sons and daughters! I am blessed to have been a small part of this family’s new joy in adoption this Christmas season! #adoption #keepsakes #christmasornament #memories #belonging #loveisachoice
7 0 3 December, 2019

Saying YES to Self-Love is saying yes to an ongoing, ever-evolving work. There is no final destination, just deeper layers.

Saying YES to Self-Love is saying yes to an ongoing, ever-evolving work. There is no final destination, just deeper layers.
24 3 3 December, 2019

“They say love is journey. I promise I’ll never leave. I get to love you. Forever I’m yours, forever I do.” #loveisachoice #loveisafeeling #begrateful #growtogether #challengeoneanother #support #MrsKeller #forever #myhusband #stud @tkallday_1

“They say love is journey. I promise I’ll never leave. I get to love you. Forever I’m yours, forever I do.” #loveisachoice #loveisafeeling #begrateful #growtogether #challengeoneanother #support #MrsKeller #forever #myhusband #stud @tkallday_1
14 0 2 December, 2019

What will you create for yourself today? What will you choose to think? How will you show up for yourself? How will you interpret the circumstances of your life? You have the power to choose.
Check out my Self-Love 101 course on my website (link in bio) to learn simple steps to creating a future full of Self-Love.

What will you create for yourself today? What will you choose to think? How will you show up for yourself? How will you interpret the circumstances of your life? You have the power to choose. 
Check out my Self-Love 101 course on my website (link in bio) to learn simple steps to creating a future full of Self-Love.
27 1 2 December, 2019

Top #loveisachoice posts

This was six years ago today and I still can’t watch this without crying.
She surprised me with this moment at our reception and after secret guitar lessons for weeks from @jameyjaz ...she sang this to me and melted my heart. (+ It was her first time ever singing in front of people.)
So many tears and it’s only 10am.
Happy Anniversary to my best friend, my help mate, and my companion in all the worlds of God. @emilybaldoni I choose you today, and will continue to choose you tomorrow and every day for the rest of my life...even when we are so annoyed with each other that it’s the last thing we both want. 😜 Ok, I’m going to get off my phone now and come and love tackle you! Get ready. #marriage #thatvoice #loveisachoice

This was six years ago today and I still can’t watch this without crying. 
She surprised me with this moment at our reception and after secret guitar lessons for weeks from @jameyjaz ...she sang this to me and melted my heart. (+ It was her first time ever singing in front of people.)
So many tears and it’s only 10am. 
Happy Anniversary to my best friend, my help mate, and my companion in all the worlds of God. @emilybaldoni I choose you today, and will continue to choose you tomorrow and every day for the rest of my life...even when we are so annoyed with each other that it’s the last thing we both want. 😜 Ok, I’m going to get off my phone now and come and love tackle you! Get ready.  #marriage #thatvoice #loveisachoice
568,548 5,617 27 July, 2019

The biggest struggle regarding ROCD is having intrusive thoughts and using those thoughts to determine how you feel about your partner. No matter what you’re thinking, you are NOT your thoughts. Surely, we’ve all had thoughts that seemed to come out of no where. For example, we might suddenly wonder about robbing a bank, but that doesn’t mean we’re a thief or robber. It’s just a small thought that might cross our mind. In this case, we wouldn’t even obsess over it. We would just let it pass, but with ROCD, we get thoughts about anything: not loving our partner, fantasizing about others, cheating, thinking our partners aren’t moral, attractive, or intelligent enough, and so much more. But this is human biology. Our brains are literally built to think about every scenario and situation and thought. They run through everything because that’s what they’re SUPPOSED to do. We are not these thoughts, and we do not need to put ANY MEANING to these thoughts that we have.
#youarenotyourthoughts #youarenotyourfeelings #relationshipobsessivecompulsivedisorder #anxiety #selfhelp #rocd #ocd #relationshipocd #loveisachoice #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #mentalhealth #relationshipocd #mentalhealthmatters #awakenintolove #cbt #mindfulness #meditation #relationships #realocd #intrusivethoughts #ocdawareness #ocdproblems #rocdmemes

The biggest struggle regarding ROCD is having intrusive thoughts and using those thoughts to determine how you feel about your partner.  No matter what you’re thinking, you are NOT your thoughts.  Surely, we’ve all had thoughts that seemed to come out of no where. For example, we might suddenly wonder about robbing a bank, but that doesn’t mean we’re a thief or robber. It’s just a small thought that might cross our mind. In this case, we wouldn’t even obsess over it. We would just let it pass, but with ROCD, we get thoughts about anything: not loving our partner, fantasizing about others, cheating, thinking our partners aren’t moral, attractive, or intelligent enough, and so much more.  But this is human biology.  Our brains are literally built to think about every scenario and situation and thought.  They run through everything because that’s what they’re SUPPOSED to do.  We are not these thoughts, and we do not need to put ANY MEANING to these thoughts that we have. 
#youarenotyourthoughts #youarenotyourfeelings #relationshipobsessivecompulsivedisorder #anxiety #selfhelp #rocd #ocd #relationshipocd #loveisachoice #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #mentalhealth #relationshipocd #mentalhealthmatters #awakenintolove #cbt #mindfulness #meditation #relationships #realocd #intrusivethoughts #ocdawareness #ocdproblems #rocdmemes
790 7 15 November, 2019

Reposted from @ocd_and_love (@get_regrann) - As I was looking for something to post today, I stumbled upon this piece of writing. I think it’s beautiful and it can really help some of you all to read it ❤️ so much, we believe that being in love with someone is all about the electric, butterfly 🦋 moments, when in reality it is compromise and hard work. Sometimes it’s going to be ugly, but it’s about CHOOSING and willing yourself to love someone through all the hard times. Yesterday, I posted a poll, and 95% of you voted that you struggle with attraction to your partner. This is one of the main things I struggle with too, and I know that when you go through spikes feeling that your partner is “unnattractive”, it is harder to love them and harder to believe this is the “right” relationship for you. However, for me at least, attraction is so dependent on my mood. When I’m having my obsessive thoughts, obviously, it’s harder for me to see my partner as attractive. And sometimes you pick at certain aspects of their face or body and then feel inundated with guilt. As hard as it is to say sometimes, no partner is perfect. Life is not perfect, and it helps to remind yourself of this.
Also, trying my best to respond to DM’s and comments ❤️ #panic #anxietyrelief #selfcare #selfhelp #rocd #ocd #relationshipocd #loveisachoice #relationships #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #awakenintolove #cbt #mindfulness #meditation #relationships #realocd #intrusivethoughts #ocdawareness

Reposted from @ocd_and_love (@get_regrann) -  As I was looking for something to post today, I stumbled upon this piece of writing. I think it’s beautiful and it can really help some of you all to read it ❤️ so much, we believe that being in love with someone is all about the electric, butterfly 🦋 moments, when in reality it is compromise and hard work.  Sometimes it’s going to be ugly, but it’s about CHOOSING and willing yourself to love someone through all the hard times.  Yesterday, I posted a poll, and 95% of you voted that you struggle with attraction to your partner.  This is one of the main things I struggle with too, and I know that when you go through spikes feeling that your partner is “unnattractive”, it is harder to love them and harder to believe this is the “right” relationship for you.  However, for me at least, attraction is so dependent on my mood.  When I’m having my obsessive thoughts, obviously, it’s harder for me to see my partner as attractive. And sometimes you pick at certain aspects of their face or body and then feel inundated with guilt.  As hard as it is to say sometimes, no partner is perfect. Life is not perfect, and it helps to remind yourself of this. 
Also, trying my best to respond to DM’s and comments ❤️ #panic #anxietyrelief #selfcare #selfhelp #rocd #ocd #relationshipocd #loveisachoice #relationships #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #awakenintolove #cbt #mindfulness #meditation #relationships #realocd #intrusivethoughts #ocdawareness
511 8 16 November, 2019

Let your choice to love your spouse be louder than your emotions. As humans, our emotions are constantly up and down. We cannot dictate the pursuit of our spouse based off such an unsteady foundation! ⁠


#loveisachoice
#notanemotion
#moralrevolution

Let your choice to love your spouse be louder than your emotions. As humans, our emotions are constantly up and down. We cannot dictate the pursuit of our spouse based off such an unsteady foundation! ⁠
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#loveisachoice⁠
#notanemotion⁠
#moralrevolution
4,915 29 1 November, 2019

Choosing you, every day ❤️ #loveisachoice

Choosing you, every day ❤️ #loveisachoice
22,774 110 19 April, 2019

I wanted to talk about a very sensitive topic that is everywhere now due to law changes,debates and law proposals in some states.ABORTION. As a Christian person I can not vote to legalize abortions just because it’s a child’s life even though this child not formed properly and not born yet.I’m looking at my precious and deeply loved kids @virsaviya_art_heart and @little_prince_ervin_joseph and I know I would never abort them because so many prayers and tears has been layed just to have them!Doctors in Russia tried to convince me to get rid of Virsaviya when I was 26 weeks pregnant,they were stating that She will die any ways during the labor but when I refused to kill her,they refused to do a c-section for me saying the same thing that she will die, so they won’t waist their time on it and will let her die during birth.I will never abort another baby if I will get pregnant again because kids are a blessing and a priceless gift from Jesus🙌🏻✝️ even though I’m not planning to have another baby any time soon.But let’s take a look on the other side of the medal.When I was 17 I was married to the drug addicted person and I got pregnant.He didn’t asked me if I want kids,he didn’t stop doing drugs but he just did what he did and 1 time was enough for me to get pregnant.I was very far from my hometown without the ability to talk to my mom or my best friend,I never had a phone because my ex husband used to just take everything from me and sell it to get drugs,I didn’t know even 1 person where I lived besides my ex husband and his family. I was too young I was too scared and I did an abortion.That child would be 12 years old now.Did I regret?Yes I was crying a lot until I had Virsaviya.Do I regret now?It’s hard to tell because if I would have that child I wouldn’t have Virsaviya,I wouldn’t be who I am right now,I wouldn’t come to USA(because I came here for Virsaviya)I wouldn’t have my precious son,and my loving husband @erv_i_am Is it mean abortion is a good thing?No!So many girls stays quiet in their toxic relationship like I was for 5 years.. READ CONTINUE IN THE COMMENTS AND PLEASE LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK Should the abortion be illegal or not?💭

I wanted to talk about a very sensitive topic that is everywhere now due to law changes,debates and law proposals in some states.ABORTION. As a Christian person I can not vote to legalize abortions just because it’s a child’s life even though this child not formed properly and not born yet.I’m looking at my precious and deeply loved kids @virsaviya_art_heart and @little_prince_ervin_joseph and I know I would never abort them because so many prayers and tears has been layed just to have them!Doctors in Russia tried to convince me to get rid of Virsaviya when I was 26 weeks pregnant,they were stating that She will die any ways during the labor but when I refused to kill her,they refused to do a c-section for me saying the same thing that she will die, so they won’t waist their time on it and will let her die during birth.I will never abort another baby if I will get pregnant again because kids are a blessing and a priceless gift from Jesus🙌🏻✝️ even though I’m not planning to have another baby any time soon.But let’s take a look on the other side of the medal.When I was 17 I was married to the drug addicted person and I got pregnant.He didn’t asked me if I want kids,he didn’t stop doing drugs but he just did what he did and 1 time was enough for me to get pregnant.I was very far from my hometown without the ability to talk to my mom or my best friend,I never had a phone because my ex husband used to just take everything from me and sell it to get drugs,I didn’t know even 1 person where I lived besides my ex husband and his family. I was too young I was too scared and I did an abortion.That child would be 12 years old now.Did I regret?Yes I was crying a lot until I had Virsaviya.Do I regret now?It’s hard to tell because if I would have that child I wouldn’t have Virsaviya,I wouldn’t be who I am right now,I wouldn’t come to USA(because I came here for Virsaviya)I wouldn’t have my precious son,and my loving husband @erv_i_am  Is it mean abortion is a good thing?No!So many girls stays quiet in their toxic relationship like I was for 5 years.. READ CONTINUE IN THE COMMENTS AND PLEASE LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK Should the abortion be illegal or not?💭
7,378 115 14 May, 2019

We got married but we never stop dating!!! I love Friday nights. I love stepping away from the chaos and the busy moments of our week. Took a quick trip to Southport, NC tonight (safe haven was filmed) and ate waterside for our weekly date night. ice cream after and I never get tired of BEING YOURS. Life ain’t easy. The distractions and craziness don’t stop.. you get to choose where you put your heart. You my main lady forever !!!! And you have my heart. We just getting started. Oh, and thanks for letting me sport the summer stache & buzz. It’s a thing. #dateyourwife #loveisachoice #getmarriedyoung #summerstache #ihopeilikethesetattooswhenimolder #lol

We got married but we never stop dating!!! I love Friday nights. I love stepping away from the chaos and the busy moments of our week. Took a quick trip to Southport, NC tonight (safe haven was filmed) and ate waterside for our weekly date night. ice cream after and I never get tired of BEING YOURS. Life ain’t easy. The distractions and craziness don’t stop.. you get to choose where you put your heart. You my main lady forever !!!! And you have my heart. We just getting started. Oh, and thanks for letting me sport the summer stache & buzz. It’s a thing. #dateyourwife #loveisachoice #getmarriedyoung #summerstache #ihopeilikethesetattooswhenimolder #lol
1,699 21 15 June, 2019